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Post by andic on Apr 10, 2012 21:31:57 GMT
Thanks Chris that's really useful to know and always good to hear all the various bonding scenarios and take them on board.
My turn downstairs sleeping with the little lady tonight, feel like I'm on a weird sleepover minus the wine and choc! Dentastix and water just don't cut it :0)
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Post by pat on Apr 10, 2012 21:56:13 GMT
Hi Andrea you know what i am going to say , please dont sleep downstairs with them as you are going to get into a situation where she will not sleep unless one of you is down stairs, sorry you have to be cruel to be kind, your bed is upstairs and that is how it should be, she will settle better and so will he if you have your usual routine(ps i know you are a softee but it is better for her to know the rules) pat
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Post by sueb on Apr 11, 2012 7:05:31 GMT
Andrea You probably know that doggie books often advise when leaving them on their own (ie to sleep at night) to leave an old jumper or something that they can smell, to reassure them and also a radio on helps, too.
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Post by andic on Apr 11, 2012 13:46:17 GMT
Thanks pat and sue, I've probably made a rod for my own back with the sleeping thing, it was the eyes!!!
I'm definitely in my own bed tonight and taking earplugs with me.... Michaels working until about 2am so at least she will get a little fuss and toilet break when he gets home.
I'll leave something with both our smell on downstairs tonight as she's definitely favouring Michael :0)
Will let you know how it goes!
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Post by pumalass on Apr 11, 2012 16:31:11 GMT
Andrea I agree with Pat it's a slippery slope to go on they have to learn and they do, the only time I slept downstairs was with Bart when he was really poorly, he always from day two slept upstairs with us, and his last couple of weeks he was in pain and couldn't manage the stairs so the last few days I stayed down with him so he wouldn't cause himself any further pain trying to get to us. But that is the only time you should give into them they are very crafty and soon catch on if they can pull your heart strings. Good luck Chris
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Post by yvonned on Apr 13, 2012 19:17:03 GMT
Hope things are settling down in the Andic household. Is Dolly a bit pushy , that may be what Olly is unsure about. We had 2 rescue Old English and everybody loved Sally because she was so up front and friendly when out. But she wasn't such a sweetie as everybody thought, at home sometimes Prince only had to walk near her and she would give him a low quiet throaty growl or wrinkle her nose at him and show him her teeth and yet they never fought and played fine together. I hope Olly comes round, I wonder what he was like when he was in kennels.
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Post by pat on Apr 14, 2012 8:54:02 GMT
i think Andrea is finding it very hard as her dog is playing the 'i dont want anybody else in my house game' and i can really understand that ,she does not want to upset him and make him feel pushed out, but he is really playing her and she finds it very upsetting as he is sulking and not coming down from the bedroom and not doing all the normal things he does, but given time and ignoring what he is doing will end in a very good relationship with another dog, but it is a waiting game and whether you can put up with waiting and ignoring his behaviour is totally up to Andrea and her husband.It is easy for someone like me who has seen it many times to say ignore him but for someone who has never had to deal with a sulky dog it is extremely hard and upsetting to see the dog you love unhappy if only for a few weeks.good luck in what you decide, i am here for you whatever your decision pat
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Post by andic on Apr 14, 2012 15:46:59 GMT
Thanks pat, I couldn't have said it better myself. If olly wasn't my baby I could probably just do the tough love thing but I really hate seeing him this unhappy. It has however been a really good learning experience for me and glad I did it, if not to learn more about Olly, and me!
Dolly is the most beautiful girl who will fit in to any loving home, she's so well behaved and has a fantastic personality which I will miss.
We've decided to keep olly as an only dog and if I try to talk you in to letting me do it again when I forget what a "little madam" he is, please feel free to give me a talking to.
Thanks everyone for your advice, it's our last night with dolly tonight, so will make sure she gets extra hugs.
Andrea
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Post by pat on Apr 14, 2012 16:03:23 GMT
for anybody looking for the perfect little girl she will be in the kennels tomorrow looking for a new home pat
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Post by Ian on Apr 15, 2012 5:29:30 GMT
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Post by andic on Apr 15, 2012 7:18:05 GMT
From the weeks trial, I can confidently confirm she's clean, doesn't get on furniture, appears to only have lived downstairs with her previous owners (I did get her upstairs with a lead for a bath but shes happier downstairs), great with food and treats, knows basic comands like no, wait and bed and lastly has a really happy nature and gives the best cuddles ever.
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